Wedding is a celebration. Certainly, it’s
also is a sacrament. So is baptism. But we often forget this fact and turn weddings
into a pageant, or a spectacle.
Pope Francis recently lambasted the trend in
the church community to convert wedding into a spectacle and vanity. This is a
different type of celebration which often leads to vulgar display of wealth and
influence in the society. In other words, a public display of excessive pride in or admiration of
one's own appearance or achievements. Is this Kingdom of God ?
No.
People are eager to make wedding and baptism
celebrations into a kind of spectacle with music, dance, cultural programmes
and scrumptious lunch or dinner. Liquor flows very liberally. A huge money is
spent for such celebrations. And everybody forgets Jesus.
Remember that the excluded are waiting on the
other side. We refuse to acknowledge even their existence. Almost without being
aware of it, we end up being incapable of feeling compassion at the outcry of the
poor, weeping for other people’s pain, and feeling a need to help them, as
though all this were someone else’s responsibility and not our own. The great
spectacle goes on in the name of baptism and wedding. There’s no wonder that
many such weddings finally end up in divorces years later.
When we get into such pageants, please
remember whether we’re on the right side of our Lord. A power show might give
you instant satisfaction, importance and power, but the crucial question is:
does our Lord want this kind of spectacle along with sacraments? Not at
all.
Pope recommended a brief examination of
conscience to avoid falling into the temptation of the spectacle, by asking a
few simple questions. “Are you a Christian? Yes! Do you believe in Jesus Christ?
Yes! Do you believe in the sacraments? Yes! Do you believe that Jesus is there
and that He has come here now? Yes, yes, yes!” Well then, Pope Francis
continued, “why don’t you go to adore Him, why don’t you go to Mass, why don’t
you take Communion, why don’t you draw near to the Lord”, so that his Kingdom
may “grow” within you? After all, the Pontiff stated, “the Lord never says that
the Kingdom of God is a spectacle”.
His words are clear. Why don’t you come closer
to our Lord instead of getting into the trap of pageants.
“It (sacrament) is a celebration, but it’s
different! It’s a beautiful celebration, a grand feast. And Heaven will be
feast, but not a spectacle,” he says. Instead, our human weakness prefers a
spectacle.
In other words, the Pope said, “the Kingdom of God is not a spectacle.” So often, the
spectacle is a caricature of the Kingdom
of God . Indeed, we must
never “forget that it was one of the three temptations”: in the desert, Jesus
is told: “go to the pinnacle of the temple and throw yourself down, and
everyone will believe. Make a spectacle”. “However, the Kingdom of God
is silent, it grows within; the Holy Spirit makes it grow with our willingness,
in our soil, which we must prepare. But it grows slowly, silently,” he said.
The Kingdom of God
is humble, like a seed: humble. However, it becomes big by the power of the
Holy Spirit. And we have to let it grow within us, without boasting.